CrossFit and Life

On July 25, 2016, Branda and I embarked on a new physical fitness journey by joining a local CrossFit Box.  (We still call it a gym, but like many things, CrossFit has it’s own jargon.)  If you have known us for any time at all, you already know that health and fitness are important to us and we have a strong competitive streak.  Finding something to compete in after high school has been a challenge, especially as my body has betrayed me at different points over the last 30 years.

I have run half marathons and 10K races and for a few years trained for and completed several triathlons. The triathlon phase forced me to learn how to actually swim. Completing an International distance triathlon was my most demanding accomplishment.  I was never good at triathlons, but I wasn’t last to finish either.  However, the time, equipment and physical demands of training became obstacles to continuing that endeavor.  I walked away from triathlons when we moved to a neighborhood that was not conducive to getting to the pool regularly and where cycling from my front door for the 30+ mile rides was way beyond dangerous.  Couple those challenges with the nagging shoulder pain I was having and some time off sounded like the best medicine.  I did that… Rested….for a YEAR!  Here I was in my mid-40’s and I became a “dog walker”.  Nothing wrong with walking the dog, the dog kind of liked it. But, when that is your exercise program and you have been “athletic” the majority of your life, it feels like giving up.

So July of 2016 rolls around and I finally made a decision.  The nagging shoulder was either going to show itself to be a serious shoulder injury requiring surgery or it was going to get better with strength work.  It was not getting better with time.  By the way, neither was the stiff back, hip pain, or any of the other ailments I would experience as I entered my later 40’s.  Flashback, four years early when I had visited CrossFit 1889 (where we are members) to “check it out”. A friend of mine owns it so I wanted to see what this was all about.  After one class I said NO WAY would I ever do that!  I would die and be an injured mess! But, I needed a solution. Here’s what I’ve learned since I began:

CrossFit lesson #1  Walk Before You Run

I was warned about all the injuries I would experience and how the Orthopedic Doctor would become a regular line item in my budget with this new found hobby.  What I discovered is by learning proper technique AND using weight/resistance that is challenging to me, but not ridiculous, I gained strength and confidence in the movements.  As I remained consistent with workouts 5 days per week, my strength and stamina increased and the shoulder pain decreased!

CrossFit lesson #2 Competing with Others can Hurt you

About six months after getting started with CrossFit, everything was going well until I heard about this world-wide event called “The Open”!  You may be familiar with the CrossFit Games. Well, the Crossfit Games event is the World Series of CrossFit that starts for every athlete with The Open.  The Open is a series of workouts completed one workout per week over 5-6 weeks where your score is compared against other athletes around the world in your age group for a chance to move on to Regional level competitions.  These workouts are very demanding and, for a competitive person, a great opportunity to get hurt!  So I “competed” in The Open that first year and, upon it’s completion, lost a week of training due to muscle spasms in my back! However, I didn’t learn this lesson fully yet!  A few months later this thing called the Festivus Games came up.  This was a competition against other athletes live and in living color.  While these workouts were built for the novice/beginner, “non-Games” athlete, it was still competition.  This was a great test; one that I both passed and failed.  I WON my segment of the competition! I brought home a 1st Place medal to prove it. However, one of the events was a maximum weight, one-repetition Power Clean.  I set my Personal Record for max weight lifted, but tweaked my knee.  Won the prize AND more time off to heal, along with a knee brace, swelling and more modified workouts for over a year.  (Still haven’t had the knee checked, but that’s another story.)

Here’s the lesson: As long as I was competing with ME, I was making progress –  getting stronger, feeling good and really finding my groove.  As soon as my target was to beat somebody else, I ran into a wall.  The injury bug has only visited in competition with others.  Lesson learned: compete with me, work on me, become a better me.  By the way, as I embrace that philosophy I have not only improved, but my “standing” in the Box has improved as well.

CrossFit Lesson #3  Measurable Progress

One of the things I love about CrossFit is that we track our work.  After every workout we log our results into an app so we can see progress over time.  The app also allows us to see how we stacked up that day with other athletes in our Box, but many of us keep that information private.  This is about measuring my progress against me, see lesson #2.

Two of the many “named” workouts in CrossFit are Grace and Nancy.  The story goes that these “named” workouts are named after former girlfriends based on how nasty the breakup or relationship experience was deemed to be by the workout creator.  My interpretation? None of these girls were nice and all these workouts are hard.  Grace is a fast workout of 30 reps of Clean and Jerks at a prescribed weight of 135 pounds.  Nancy is a longer workout including 5 rounds of a 400 meter run and 15 overhead squats at 95 pounds.  We call these “benchmark” workouts, as we do them periodically to measure our progress.

It just so happens we did both Grace and Nancy within the first few weeks of our start at CrossFit 1889 and we did them both again within a week of our second anniversary.  The details don’t matter to you as a reader, but I will share them anyway.  First of all, I have not completed Grace as prescribed (or RX) yet.  Two years ago, I used 95 pounds and took 5:49 to complete the 30 reps.  This year, I used 115 pounds and cut the time to 4:23.  Forward progress is so exciting!  If I were competing with anyone but myself, I would be disappointed in what I didn’t do – the RX weight.  However, it’s progress!  Nancy is a much longer workout which we have done three times over the two year period.  August of 2016, I used a 45 pound bar for this workout and completed it in 19:39.  January of 2017, I upped the weight to 75 pounds and improved to a time of 17:59.  A couple weeks ago, I stayed at 75 pounds, but cut my time to 16:56.  As you see, still not RX, but great progress!  Did I mention that I will be 49 very soon?  Ya, that can be an issue!

The lesson here is to have goals and measure your progress.  Only measure YOUR progress, not in comparison to anyone else.  They aren’t you, don’t have your challenges and don’t live your life.  Be you and be your best.

CrossFit Lesson #4 Consistent and Persistent

This one is for free!  Making forward progress will never occur without persistent and consistent effort.  Anything less makes your goals into wishes.  Branda and I workout 4-5 times a week (5 way more than 4).  Though we are encouraged to take rest days, we know that consistency is way more important for us.  I also know that progress for me is different than it is for my 27 year old friends at the Box.  Whether it is a fitness goal, financial goal, relationship goal, or any other type of goal, it will not come to reality without consistent and persistent effort.  Stay the course and keep moving forward!

Where are you making progress? I’d love to hear your story.

Steve

Lessons from Mexico

Last week Branda and I had the distinct pleasure and opportunity to spend six days in Mexico.  This is the fourth incentive trip with our AdvoCare leadership we have earned in the last six years, however it is by far the most unique trip to date.  The following are five  of the things I learned from this particular experience.

Resorts are resorts, but communities are special!  

Before you read on, don’t misunderstand me at all.  The St. Regis Punta Mita is an incredible property with a great staff situated in the perfect spot along the west coast of Mexico.  However, every five star resort we have had the opportunity to visit has been absolutely amazing.  Yes, the sand and sea is different in the Caribbean compared to the Pacific Ocean, but all are exquisite. Each experience has had unique elements and signature features, but all perfect in their environment.

This time however there was a “Pre-trip”  trip!  Yes, the adventure aspect.  For two days prior to our luxurious stay at the St. Regis we stayed in the town of Punta Mita.  We were only 800 yards from the gates to the resort areas, but we were also a lifetime away at the same time.

You see for two days we stayed at the Punto Mita Suites and Hostel.  More specifically on Air BNB you could search Punto Mita Suite 5.  That was our spot for two great days.  Along with great friends and comrades in adventure we met incredible locals.  Santiago and Carlos were the Inn Keepers, Carlos’ Mother-in-law Theresa had the taco trailer down the block.  These guys worked hard and provided a great experience right in the middle of town.  The downtown Punta Mita experience included chickens in every backyard, a horse stationed in a vacant lot and myriad of Chihuahua’s roaming the streets.

Great people are way better than great sunsets!

The sunsets in Punta Mita were absolutely breathtaking!  The pictures were amazing and yet don’t do justice in comparison to the real thing.  Better than the best sunset was spending time with amazing people.  Who are amazing people?  For starters, my wife!  Amazing people qualify as those who are unique, willing to do the extraordinary, those willing to take chances and experience adventure in life.  Amazing people do what ordinary is unwilling to do.  The results are NOT what makes them amazing.  The greatest attribute shared by our group is an unwillingness to let the status quo define them.  They scratch, claw, work, even fight for improvement.  Have you noticed how rare that is in our culture?  This small group of people, approximately 20, have all done something that hundreds of thousands of people had the opportunity to do and yet the others didn’t do it.  I am grateful for every moment we spent with these amazing people!

Adventures are worth taking!

I may have mentioned the first two days of the trip in Punta Mita.  Well, sometimes you dial up an adventure and it goes perfectly and sometimes you dial up an adventure and you get great stories.  This time we got both!  In Puerto Vallarta, when you get off the plane you quickly meet some of nicest young men offering you maps, drinks, and discounted excursions.  Well, I needed a map, planned on doing an excursion, but wasn’t very thirsty.  I proceeded to talk with this guy as he shared with me all the information I needed.  Of course, his help and the discount came with a small catch.  All we had to do was come to this awesome resort the next morning where the valet parking would be comped, enjoy a leisurely and fantastic buffet breakfast also comped, then take a tour of this beautiful property.  Then the fun starts by spending at least an hour with a very nice time share salesman from Canada and about 6 of his friends at different tables under the resort.  Our friends in adventure, Robert and Karleen joined in the trip with our pact to say “No” and help each other say “No”.  We really had a fantastic time.  Our guide, Emilio, was a former pro soccer player from Canada and he did his job well while we stuck to our guns.  At the end of the 3 hour visit we left with our deeply discounted excursion tickets, a full belly, $75 cash and finally even got our rental car back.

Once we received our car we drove back to Punta Mita and went straight to the beach for lunch.  We had the best fish tacos on the beach prepared by a sweet older couple who worked out of the back of their home and served us on a beach table and plastic chairs.  It was the best ever!

That evening we took our excursion boarding the “party” boat at 7:30 to sail across the bay to a remote location where we would experience an incredible show by Circus Sole (I am sure I spelled that wrong). The show was indescribably great!  After the show we enjoyed a delicious buffet dinner overlooking the bay before boarding the party boat for our return trip.  Another couple joined us for this part of the adventure which turned out to be 5 hours of incredible fun at a deeply discounted price I might add.

Experiencing success with others is better than success alone!

As a part of the Advocare experience we get to work with others in fulfilling their personal mission and dreams.  As a result of the work done we had the great pleasure of having two couples on this trip connected to our “Yes”.  Dave and Dani have earned other trips with us before, but it never gets old having someone we had the privilege of introducing this opportunity to have the kind of success that results in great trips.  Another layer of fun is when DJ and Dana, who are connected to Dave and Dani’s “yes” earned the trip this time.  I know their lid was lifted on this trip, as ours was the first time we arrived in Grand Cayman for our first incentive trip.  Both of these couples are incredible.

Selling is a worthy skill and should be mastered

Something I learned about the Mexican people on this trip is that they are not afraid to work!  Not only are they not afraid to work, they are not afraid to sell.  Often in America I hear people say, “oh, that’s not for me I couldn’t sell anything.  In fact, I don’t ever want to have to sell anything.”  I am always amazed when I hear these statements, but in Mexico they will work and sell like the grocery bill depends on it, BECAUSE IT DOES!  I am so impressed by the tenacity and drive these folks showed us.  They were selling bracelets, tacos, fruit, time shares, excursions, restaurants.  You name it they were selling it.  I know we live in a different culture, with a different economy, different standards, but also a different work ethic.  Our culture could learn a lot of personal responsibility and hard work from our Mexican friends.  The secret is that all the people I know who are fixated on a salaried job have a salaried job because someone else is selling something.  Economies only work if goods, services, and idea are being sold or exchanged for another product, service, or money.  Don’t be afraid to sell, just be polite about it.  Thank you Mexico for showing that to me.

When people ask me what my favorite part of this trip was I have to say it is what I learned and with whom I spent time.  This could have been anywhere I suppose, but it was Mexico.

As you read, someone might be asking some questions like what is this AdvoCare thing?  Others may want to know how to get other people to pay for your resort travel.  Some of you may just want to know how to fill your life with amazing people.  Whatever your question let me know.

Steve Polk

“What if…?” and “Why?”

One who never asks either knows everything or nothing.                                                                                          -Malcolm Forbes

When I was a kid I drove my Mom and my older brother crazy with questions.  Constantly wanting to know “why?” Then once was told for tenth time to stop asking why I turned to my other favorite question…”What if….?”

I love my family and I believe that it is true that very typically our family members want what is best for us in life.  Whether it is our parents or a big brother; they want to see us have a great life.  Oftentimes part of the desire of parents is to see their kids live a life with minimal to no struggles, we hate to see our kids hurting or disappointed.  However, when it comes to asking the same question over and over even the most loving of parent can have enough and shut it down.

Why and “how” are words so important that they cannot be too often used.   – Napoleon Bonaparte

So here is the problem!  We become programmed to stop asking these vital questions.  In my world it would be like this.  What if we had stayed in California where I was born?  What if I hadn’t had a back injury in high school and had gone to a different college?  What if we hadn’t taken the opportunity to move to South Carolina in 2011?  What if I wasn’t willing to grow?  What if I didn’t believe my future was brighter than my past?  Then the why question!  Why did that bad thing happen? or why did this good thing occur?

“What if” is the question of vision!  That’s my take.  My preferred future is my responsibility.  So given that fact I have to ask “what if.”  What if I never save a dime toward retirement?  What if what I save isn’t enough?  What if I am not open to new learning?  What if I decide in advance that a new opportunity is not for me? What if I do what I think everyone before me did? Should I expect a different result?  What if I stop asking the question, what if?  Is that when a person shrivels up, uses oxygen and eventually dies?  So here we are well into our 40’s relearning how to ask “what if?”  Parenting in a way as to encourage our kids to ask “what if?”

If the question “What if?” is the question of vision, then what about “why?”  Why is often the question of the past.  Why did that happen?  Why didn’t this go the way we hoped? Why did you do what you did?  Why did I respond that way?  Since looking back is of limited value when the future is out the windshield I am adjusting the question.  The one I want to ask with annoying repetition is “WHY NOT?”

Why not me?  Why not you? There are things in my life that I want.  I want great generational relationships with my kids, their wives and their kids and their kids after them.  “Why not?”  I want to have the financial freedom to be free to participate in the lives of my grandchildren at an appropriate level no matter where they live. “Why not?” I want to take my wife great places in the world. Why not!  I want to give to great causes and help people who need help.  “Why not?”  I want to invest myself in younger men who want to avoid some of the roadblocks I may have had to traverse. “Why not?”  You see the point?  Ask yourself “why not” and what if?”

What if you had someone who would come along side you who could help you fulfill those things on your list?  So that when you asked “why not?” your only answer is because you don’t want to or you don’t value it all that much.  It would be nice, but it’s really not important to me.  However, for those things that are important, the things you desperately value. What if you and I could really believe that it is possible, because it is.

Ask questions, wrestle with why, imagine what if, and if why not is impeding your progress let me know.  There are solutions.

 

Mining Greatness,

Steve Polk

Why “Mining Greatness?”

This blog is a “next steps” of sorts in a years long journey of personal growth and exploration. Making the journey public is both nerve racking and exciting at the same time.  As you read these posts, my intention is that you will embark on your own journey of growth and discovery becoming all you were created to be.

I will be sharing on topics of faith, family, leadership, health, finances, the power of the mind, relationships, work; all under the guide of Mining Greatness.  I won’t be sharing as an expert, but as one on a journey – a journey with a generational destination, but no end.  An end I will never see, yet a journey of joy and growth that will leave a legacy.

Greatness isn’t something to be grasped and controlled.  Greatness is something to unleash, discover, dig out from the depths.  That is why we will mine it together.  Mining is work and so is personal discovery.  Our reality is, we are born to be great; that was God’s plan from the beginning.  However, life happens and influences come into our lives, usually with the best of intentions (though not always).   In an effort to protect, the people closest to us can enable us to see “average” as acceptable and, even more than that, encourage us to see “average” as our best.  A friend of mine frequently sites this definition of average, “the bottom of the best and the top of the worst.”  For some that might be fine. If that is you, the content of this blog is not designed to help you, unless helping you means you change your mind about your pursuit of greatness.  For those who laughed or even nodded your head when reading that definition and you know that average is not for you, then let’s go!

I thank you in advance for your questions and comments as we journey together.

Finding Greatness,

Steven M. Polk